When expecting, expect the unexpected.
In one of the oldest ancient Hindu texts, the Bhagavad Gita, Lord Krishna says that one must do one's duties, but one has no control over the fruits. Nor must one claim any right to the results. We should expect nothing in return for what we do. In other words, have no expectations.
So my question to you is, ‘when was the last time you really selflessly gave without expecting a reward? Or more importantly, lived from that place of no expectations?
The answer to that for most of us is that we probably can’t remember. We can’t remember what it is like to give and give without any possible expectation of something in return and from a place of no expectations. And let’s face it the moment money is involved, then an expectation of a return is almost always expected.
So how do we live by this creed of giving without expecting anything in return? Is it even possible in our lives and how things are structured in our society to even live by this? And if it is, how is it done?
Well, firstly, I believe it can be done. It is difficult but it can be done and more importantly when we tap into this beautiful reservoir that is of no expectations, we experience a feeling of true freedom. Why freedom?
Well, this quote sums it up “Expectation is the root of all heartache”. William Shakespeare.
By now you’ll be saying but how? I believe it is in this bible verse in Mathew 18:3 that gives us the how:
And said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven”.
I know from watching our son play from a young age, they live in a sense of wonder. Full of wonder, of curiosity and of playfulness in that zone of not knowing but unknowing. That is how I believe we need to be living and experiencing life and it isn’t only me that knows this to be true. This passage from Psychology today really sums it up:
In seeing with a child's eyes, every situation will always appear new to us. If every situation is new, then, by definition, we can hold no expectation. We don't "know" what's going to happen; we can only wait and see. If we enter into a situation "knowing", as it were, then we lose the opportunity to experience the nuances and differences that make that experience unique, even if that experience is seemingly identical to one that we've had before.
So, you see, the keys to expecting the unexpected is in our not knowing and by releasing and living from that inner childlike state, experience and behaviour. We can be reminded of that by looking at other children and soaking up their experience when they play and live in that state of happiness, freedom and wonder. Like I said above, its not easy and it needs to be cultivated but isn't a tonic for releasing heartache as William Shakespeare tells us worth it?
I believe it is. So if you see me out there jumping in puddles and acting silly in NOT KNOWING….just know, I am cultivating a childlike state again.
Will you join me?
Until next time, never forget. YOU ARE POWERFUL. The spirit in one is the spirit in ALL.
Much love, light and blessings. Rx