The Crisis of Comparison-itis

Updated: Jun 20

"Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?"

We all remember this Brothers Grimm fairy-tale, right?

Each time the Evil Queen asks this question, the mirror which never lies always says, "My Queen, you are the fairest of them all", up until one day when Snow White turns seven, the Queen asks the mirror the question that day and the mirror responds: "My Queen, you are the fairest here so true. But Snow White is a thousand times more beautiful than you."

Upon hearing this, firstly, she hires a huntsman to kill Snow White and then when she realises that Snow White has not been killed, the Evil Queen decides to disguise herself as a different woman to kill Snow White using the poison apple but the prince kisses her back to life and they marry. The Queen realises too late that the young Queen marrying the Prince was Snow White and by the end of the book, she dies (in various ways depending on which book version you read).

There are hundreds of spiritual meanings behind this fairy-tale (as per all fairy-tales), and this fairy-tale in particular has it all, from the power of numerology and numbers, negative thoughts, the Chakras through to enlightenment, but today I will focus on one aspect of this story about the ills that can befall us with comparison-itis.

In this story, the Queen isn’t evil to start off with, no sire-ee, she is a woman looking into the mirror asking it a question and it reaffirms back to her how amazing she is at every level of her existence including her beauty. 

Remember the mirror is just reflecting what it is seeing within, so, at some point, her virtues, vanity and character has shifted (for whatever reason) and she is tested when the mirror responds back to her that in fact there is someone else out there that is more beautiful and fairer than she is in all the lands.

The minute the mirror responds in this way in an instant, she is given a decision to make; let one of the seven deadly sins rule her life or one of the seven desirable virtues. Or in other words, look at the other person outside of herself and let envy and jealousy ruin her life by comparing herself to others or go back to working on herself to improve from within, so that the mirror starts to reflect itself from what it sees in all the lands.

Instead of working on herself, she chooses the deadly sin of envy and jealousy over the desirable virtue of kindness.

In the end, envy and jealousy destroy her.

Envy, jealousy or comparison-itis always destroys no matter its guise. It destroys our confidence, our self-belief, our self-esteem and our character at every level and to add to that, we are tested on this character flaw at every stage of our journey.

So, what do we do to avoid it?

From my experience over the years in working with many people, there is only one cure and it is this:

If when you are looking in the mirror of life and you are asking it this question and it comes back with anything other than you, then you know envy or jealousy is knocking at the door of your life and you have a decision to make in an instant. You must ask yourself, "do I become the green-eyed monster in envying someone else’s life or do I start to look into my own and work on ME?"

If you do decide to admire others, then do this from an inspiration perspective only which means that you know deep within that if they can do something, you can too as they have a the same spirit within them that you have; not from an envy or jealousy perspective. Then in that moment, decide to focus on your own divine purpose, your own desires, your own goals, your own self-character of improvement and your own life.   

That is it. Simple.

It reminds me of this quote:

“A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.” ― Zen Shin (Japanese monk named Ogui - Sensei)

So today, I leave you with this.

Go up to your mirror and ask it. Go on......

If I were to ask it for you, this is what I know it would say:

“Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the most magnificent of them all?

"YOU are the most magnificent of them all!"

Until next time.

Love, light and blessings as always.

Rachel x I help people manifest magic and live bold, brilliant lives!

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