Men's Sexual Energy after 40.
One of the benefits of being in the Army for 10 years and then into technology for another 20 (when it was still mostly male dominated) was that it enabled me to understand men at a deep level. Let’s face it, being one of the first women to train male soldiers, I had to know what made them tick.
On top of that, having worked spiritually with energy over the past 30 years whilst serving in corporate roles, I started to really understand men, not only a physical level but also an energetic one.
What I noticed over the years is the number of men when they hit 40 (and of course anytime between the ages of 40 and 55) how many of them have what psychologists’ term as a mid-life crisis, or for some of them what they call ‘feeling lost’ but it is what I like to term an energetic shift.
To keep this in the briefest of explanations, for most of us, up until the age of 40, we are predominately living and operating from the lower energy centres of the body. These energy centres are from the base of the spine up to the belly or solar plexus.
When we predominately live and operate from the lower energy centres, they are trying to establish themselves in security, sex, power and like all things have a positive and negative and if lived in the negative can be lived out through many forms of addictions (work, drugs, women drink, etc…) and the virtues of lust, greed, envy, jealousy etc...
Then at the age of 40 and over, the energy starts shifting and wants to start moving higher up into the body into the higher energy centres. These higher centres start from the heart and go up to the head. The energy (driven by sexual energy) is trying to move up from the lower centres into the higher ones.
When this happens, men around that age move into a so called ‘mid-life crisis’ and start feeling ‘lost’. At this point energetically what is happening is the sexual and lower energy centres need to move from the old ways of doing things out of lust, greed, envy and addictive behaviour - into new ways of being and move from the lower centres up into the heart. You see the move from the lower to the higher centres is refining a person and needs to move into this finer way of being.
Now in the heart space is where feminine energy sits and quite a few men haven’t really dealt with ‘heart / feely stuff’, so to move into this space is a whole new experience for them and well let’s face it, some deal with it but a lot don’t. Its not their fault, they have never been taught this or even felt into it.
Why is this important to understand? There are numerous reasons. Firstly, it means things are changing big time within the body and when that happens everyone is affected. The energy is seeking release in new forms through outlets (externally) and inlets (internally) within the heart.
What happens if they don’t start to work with or channel this energy effectively to move into their heart chakra? Well, we’ve seen it, some retreat backwards to find the 25-year-old secretary and start the process all over again with another family, baby etc. (trying to reclaim their youth), others, turn to drinking excessively, drugs, work overload or reliving out some other fantasy. You see at this age, the energy must go somewhere so it is channeled into those activities.
For those that do deal with it, some of them change their lives and live into a whole new way of being, operating and feeling and start to channel the creative sexual energy into the higher centres of the head creating new experiences.
What are these experiences? They are two-fold.
In one sense from what I see in working with men and energy, it is about ways of channeling it and moving this energy from the lower centres, into the heart therefore having profound internal spiritual experiences and changes.
The other way I see it play out is through sexual creative expression where they take the energy and turn it into creative expression.
Napoleon Hill best explains this in his book ‘Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill touches on it in chapter 11 called the mystery of sex transmutation. He says this “The transmutation of sex energy calls for the exercise of will-power, to be sure, but the reward is worth the effort. The desire for sexual expression is inborn and natural. The desire cannot, and should not be submerged or eliminated. But it should be given an outlet through forms of expression which enrich the body, mind, and spirit of man. If not given this form of outlet, through transmutation, it will seek outlets through purely physical channels.”
In other words, men who can feel into this energy and transmute it into a creative ability (rather than find the new plaything) will not only transform themselves but the world and there have been many men after the age of 40 who transformed themselves and the world just to name a few from Business Insider:
· Henry Ford was 45 when he created the revolutionary Model T car in 1908.
· Jack Weil was 45 when he founded what became the most popular cowboy-wear brand, Rockmount Ranch Wear. He remained its CEO until he died at the ripe old age of 107 in 2008.
· Jack Cover worked as a scientist for institutions including NASA and IBM before he became a successful entrepreneur at 50 for inventing the Taser stun gun in 1970.
· Sam Walton had a fairly successful retail-management career in his 20s and 30s, but his path to astronomical success began at age 44, when he founded the first Wal-Mart in Rogers, Arkansas, in 1962.
· Ray Kroc spent his career as a milkshake-device salesman before buying McDonald’s at age 52 in 1954. He grew it into the world’s biggest fast-food franchise.
These men channeled that sexual energy and transmuted it up into higher ways of being from their heart. You see everything is energy including that within the body and its about channeling it in the best way possible.
It reminds me of the quote by Nikola Tesla, “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, things in terms of energy, frequency and vibration”.
To sum up, we are all energy and for males hitting that so called ‘mid-life crisis’ maybe start thinking of it in terms of energy have how to creatively channel it from the lower aspects into the heart space.
If you are a male reading this, see what resonates or what does not, or if you are wife reading this and your husband is going through this, send him to read it. He may think it’s la la or something may click with him but at the least buy him the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.
As for me, the reality is I have worked with a lot of men around this energetically with great results. As for you all, the question we all need to ask is ‘how am I channeling my sexual energy and where is it going to’?
Until next time.
Much love and light
Rachel x www.rachelwotten.com. Coach. Leadership Trainer. Corporate Exec. Military Warrior and Spiritual Leader.